🎁 Birthday = Happy? 🥳🤷‍♂️

Hi ,

Yesterday was my birthday; I'm 38 years old, sheesh.

This was also the first birthday without my daughter, Noya, who had a tragic accident 6 months ago and passed away. She was 2 years old.

It was a strange day yesterday. I woke up to balloons in the morning organized by my beautiful wife and two exceptional children.

I had cake, presents, the whole shebang... but something was missing.

Whenever I feel happy or supposed to smile, my thoughts are with Noya.

They say, " Live in the moment,” but when you have a tragedy, as soon as you have a positive moment, you’re constantly reminded of the tragedy at the same time. Whenever you experience any type of positive emotion about something you’ve gained, you’re reminded of what you’ve lost.

Birthdays are a celebration of life. The moment you were born was one of the happiest moments in your parents' lives, and they will never forget it.

As you age, your birthdays often become milestones of what you’ve achieved in the past year. You reflect and consider whether you’ve improved and grown over time or are taking steps away from your goals.

They all say “Happy Birthday!” which is excellent, but is it happy? Does it have to be happy? Is happy the goal?

I don’t have the answers to these bigger questions, but all I know is that there are only two options in life when a tragedy happens—you will either fall and hit rock bottom or lift yourself and focus on becoming the best version of yourself. You owe it to whoever you lost, but also to those who are still in your life—your spouse, your kids, and most importantly, to yourself. If lost people could speak, they would want the same for us.

The bottom line is that being happy isn’t the goal.

Happiness = Choice

I can be happy for one moment and be sad 5 seconds later.

Happiness and sadness are two feelings that you’re not allowed to stay within them.

If you’re sad for more than a few minutes or dwell on the negative, you will fall into depression.

If you’re happy for more than a few minutes or dwell on the positive, you will not try as hard. You will be moving to a comfortable state, and comfort is what kills development and creativity.

Being happy is more of a decision and how you look at things. It’s an internal process that whatever happens to you, you decide how to take it in. In other words:

As anyone can convince themselves they’re happy, the goal shouldn’t be to be happy.

Instead, I believe we should aim for fulfillment in life. Fulfillment usually happens when we do something for the benefit of others instead of benefiting ourselves.

From my short experience running businesses over the past 10 years, the thing that gives me the most fulfillment is helping others achieve success.

If you want to be happy - Help yourself

If you want to be fulfilled - Help others

I’m on a mission to help Amazon sellers reach their goals. This is what gets me out of bed in the morning. Selling 1,000 units a day is great, but helping a seller make a life-changing exit or launch their next big product idea is much more fulfilling.

Whenever your birthday is, I wish you a fulfilled birthday,

Tomer

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